When I first started dating Handsome Man Friend, he would always chuckle when I'd say, "I'll use my Michelle Luck to get us a parking spot" or, "We won't miss our flight, I have good luck." He said he'd never known anyone who just declared that they have good luck in life.
Here's the thing — most of us are doing the opposite without even noticing. You spill coffee on your shirt and think, "Of course, typical Monday." Your card gets declined at checkout and it's, "This always happens to me." We narrate our own bad luck all day long and then wonder why the pattern keeps repeating.
Turns out, this isn't just wishful thinking — there's a study that backs it up, and I love it. Harvard researchers found a group of hotel housekeepers who were already getting plenty of exercise just from cleaning rooms all day, but almost none of them thought of it that way. So the researchers told half of them, "hey, what you're doing counts as real exercise" — and left the other half alone, no new information, same job, same routine. Four weeks later, the group who'd been told their work counted had lost weight and lowered their blood pressure. The other group? Nothing changed. Same bodies, same job — the only thing that was different was what they believed about what they were already doing.
My coaching is built on the same idea: your thoughts create your results. It's the whole reason "Radical Responsibility" is one of the first things we work on together — owning what's actually in your control, starting with what you tell yourself. If you want a new job, a thought like "I hate my job" ensures you'll keep hating it and stay stuck. Shifting to "the perfect job is out there waiting for me" starts moving you, and it, in the right direction.
Try it on. Here's one to start with:
🍀 I am so lucky.
Try telling yourself that right now, and repeat it a couple of times today. Look for evidence to support that it’s true.
The worst that happens if you try it is you don't get a good parking spot, but you were in a good mood while you looked for one. (But I'll be honest, you're also totally going to score a good parking spot.)
PS I help my clients rewire the "of course this happened to me" voice into something that actually works in their favor. Set up a free consultation with me if you want help making the shift stick.
HOT OFF THE PRESS
“It is entirely in your power to create the kind of day that you want to have.”
We can't control every email, mistake, interruption, request from our kids, or unexpected problem that lands in the middle of our day.
But there are moments when we get to decide what happens next, and those moments can completely change how we experience the rest of the day.
Life is rarely calm, but the great news is that you don’t have to wait for your life to change to stop feeling overwhelmed. It’s about learning how to respond differently—and once you do, it is entirely in your power to create the kind of day that you want to have.
That's why I created this episode: to show you the tiny moments throughout an ordinary day where you can end up on a completely different path—without waiting for your workload, your family, or your circumstances to change.
Check out episode 292 here: https://tinyurl.com/OWWPod.
“We feel like negative self-talk is going to motivate us or make us better, but it does not work. It just makes your day worse.”
Imagine a woman who is fantastic at her job. She catches problems before anyone else notices them. She double-checks her work. She fixes things quickly.
But then she makes one tiny mistake.
The mistake takes 10 minutes to fix. Her boss moves on. Her team moves on. The client moves on.
The mistake takes her three hours to emotionally recover from.
Maybe you've been calling this high standards. You tell yourself, “I'm just hard on myself because I want to do a good job.”
But there's a difference between expecting a lot from yourself and making yourself pay emotionally every time you fall short. And if you've been successful for a long time, that distinction can be surprisingly difficult to see.
That's why this episode matters, because the problem isn't that you make mistakes. The problem is what happens inside your head after the mistake is over.
Listen now to learn how to move from, “I know I'm being too hard on myself” to, "I actually know what to do when that voice shows up.”
Listen to episode 293 here: https://tinyurl.com/OWWPod!
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