Change Will Feel Uncomfortable

Imagine that you’ve got a weight in your hand and you’re doing bicep curls. Let’s say your goal is to do 15. When you get to 11, it starts to be really hard, and heavy. It’s tough to keep good form. You likely want to just quit. But *this* is where the magic happens. Reps 12-15 are the discomfort of gaining new muscle.

Now imagine that you’ve been saying “yes” since you were a little girl, to almost anything anyone asks of you. You decide you’re sick of it, and decide to practice saying no. You start slow, realizing you want to say no, but still saying yes. Then you get the nerve to actually say no, and it feels mostly awful. You feel guilty and rude and worry that the person is mad at you. This is where the magic happens. Practicing that “no” even when it feels hard is how you gain the “new muscle” of saying no with ease.

If you wait for change to feel comfortable, you’ll be waiting forever. If it feels uncomfortable, you’re doing it right. AND that discomfort goes down each time you practice, until it simply becomes a new habit.


PS My coaching covers that “where the magic happens” part of change, but also the before and after. I’m an expert at guiding you through change in a slow and steady way. I’d love to talk to you about 1:1 coaching if you’ve got the desire to make some changes in your life. Book a free consultation here.

HOT OFF THE PRESS

“Our emotions aren’t good or bad — they’re information.”

They’re data.
Signals.
Messengers trying to get our attention.

And when we ignore them, suppress them, or judge them… they don’t disappear. They just show up sideways — in our bodies, our relationships, or that random breakdown in Target over literally nothing.

Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart helps us put language to our emotions and experiences. When we can name what we’re actually feeling, the intensity drops. Listen to this episode for more takeaways from one of Michelle’s fave books!

Check out episode 220 here: https://tinyurl.com/OWWPod.

”We’ve been taught that busy equals valuable.”

Somewhere along the way, we started believing that if people need us, if our schedules are packed, if we’re exhausted — then we must be important.

But feeling important isn’t the same as feeling good.

Busyness can quietly turn into a way to chase validation, follow cultural rules we never agreed to, or numb out from feelings we don’t want to face. And because it looks responsible and productive, no one ever tells us to question it — not even ourselves.

If you’re tired of feeling overwhelmed, this episode will help you see why busyness keeps you stuck — and how awareness is the first step toward finally feeling better.

Listen to episode 221 here: https://tinyurl.com/OWWPod! 

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